Blogs are a weird thing because you can kind of be an “alter-ego.” You can post about the very best things and parts of life, and readers go on getting depressed that they don’t have the picture-perfect marriage, the most attractive and obedient children, the cutest house, the most exciting lifestyle, the best recipes, and the hardest body. It’s like keeping up with the Joneses but worse and way more in your face. I like to keep it real because I think it helps other people relate, and it makes everyone feel better. So I have a confession:
I fed my kids Hot Pockets for dinner on Friday. Say WHAAAAAAAT? Yup. We had a free coupon a while back so they were just sitting in the freezer “for emergencies.” I guess I thought I’d never break them open. Friday was a pretty good day, but by 5:00 I was completely out of steam and when I got a call from The Mr. saying he wouldn’t be home for a while, I just couldn’t muster up the energy to make a dinner from scratch (plus we literally had zero food in the house). The little angel and devil popped up on my shoulders. ”How about Hot Pockets?” ”NOOOOOOO! I can’t feed that to my babies!” But guess what, sometimes we have to give ourselves a break. Do I usually give my kids lots of nutritious yummy foods? Yes. Are they happy and healthy? Yes. Is one tiny hot pocket over the course of their childhood going to give them colon cancer? No. So I did it. It was done in 60 seconds and devoured in the same amount of time. And I smiled and I felt fine. So there you have it. Granola Mom isn’t perfect. Give yourselves a break and just do the best you can!
So on to the next topic. I am extremely frustrated and completely stressed out. I heard somewhere that if you read 10 books on one subject you are considered an expert. So what happens if you read twice as many nutrition books and you are more confused than before you read any thing at all? I am so sick of not knowing who/what is right and feeling guilty despite my best efforts to provide good nutrition for my family. In the past month alone I have read/watched/skimmed/listened to the following arguments, from very passionate researchers, who all provided convincing arguments:
1. Animal protein is extremely bad for you and will cause cancer.
2. High-quality animal protein is beneficial to optimal health.
3. All dairy needs to be cut out of diet. This will cure many diseases. Don’t ever feed your baby or children cow’s milk.
4. ”My father-in-law is a Pediatric Neurologist and he says all children should drink whole milk until the age of 12.”
5. Whole grains are the best kind to eat, but not “modern and processed” whole grains.
6. A book called “Wheat Belly” just came out that claims ALL grains are bad for you, and they are what is keeping Americans fat.
7. Pasteurized milk is healthy.
8. Pasteurizing milk kills important bacteria and enzymes that are needed for nutrients to be properly absorbed. Drink raw milk instead.
9. My pediatrician told me Tornado needs to drink 3 pediasures a day to be on the right weight curve, and if his weight is not where she wants it in a month she is re-testing him for allergies, Cystic Fibrosis (which he does not have), Celiacs, or other digestive disorders.
10. The very next day I took him to a dietician who told me that he was perfectly fine and healthy, especially for a baby who was breastfed and that 2 pounds gained in 2 months was “awesome.” She sees hundreds of babies with the very same issue where the dr. is freaking out because they are not on “traditional curves” compared to formula fed babies. It isn’t necessary to give him any pediasure. Just real food and real fats.
11. Give fluoride to your children. It will prevent cavities
12. Flouride is poison.
13. The food guide pyramid is what you should eat.
14. You will never know the truth about nutrition, because the government health programs are so corrupt that it will never be permitted to be printed.
So my friends, what is a mother to do? Should I just stop listening to all these different sources with conflicting information (and the research to back it up) and just go with my intuition? I literally stress out any time I think about giving my children anything to eat! It’s insane. Who do I listen to? Do pediatricians really know anything about nutrition? Real nutrition? Or are they just taught what the general population is taught (Food Guide Pyramid and all that stuff) which so many activists are against? Who can I trust?
I suppose that is why I am doing this blog. Hopefully I can keep learning as I go, and read and study and get more knowledge, but for now, my philosophy is this:
I will feed my family whole foods that I cooked in my own home, as much as I can. And all those questions…I will let them roll off my back until I gain enough knowledge to feel sure about them. If I do make changes, I will make them very slowly so as not to get overwhelmed, and that’s as much as I am thinking about it. The rest of my “worry” time I will spend having fun with the fam and giving myself a break for not being perfect. Who’s with me?